Arkentan a frequent visitor to this blog left this comment on my book review post of C.S. Lewis’ Mere Christianity. At first I was going to leave just a short reply, but I decided to turn it into a post, because this is a rather relevant topic as to the purpose of my blog.
“You and Nate are INCREDIBLY tolerant of the apologists that comment on your sites. Meanwhile, they have no real interest other than to surreptitiously espouse their nonsense in a vain attempt to demonstrate that you deconversion is just a little bit silly and maybe entice you back to the loving bosom of Jesus. EeeK! Like Nate, I too have not read this particular book, and after your excellent review I shall give it a miss.”
I really couldn’t tell you how Nate feels about this but as for me, I don’t blog just for myself, but for the doubting christians who have unanswered questions. For the skeptical Christians who are unsatisfied with the traditional lackluster answers they get from their pastors, youth pastors and parents. This is why my blog has the tag line motto, Taking a Scalpel to Faith. During my de-conversion process, I noticed that there were a lot of atheist blogs targeting and de-bunking dogmatic religion; however not all these sites & blogs were christian friendly. Many are really designed for other atheist to rant about christians with a slight tendency to mock and ridicule.
Coming from a Christian Evangelical environment you have to care about the general well-being of people. And what I mean by christian evangelical environment is not vote republican and be against things like same-sex marriage and abortion. I’m talking about evangelizing to people, giving them the gospel, passing out tracks, and knocking on doors and praying for people when they need. In that christian type of environment only those who truly care about people can do that type of ministry work, because Christian ministry is a PEOPLE business. Because I do care about the general well-being of people, I do desire to see them out of their dogmatic delusion, but not with the tool of ridicule.
In addition to that I don’t mind being challenged in my unbelief, because I know I am more likely to change another’s mind, before they ever convert me.
It is easier to wins someones heart, before you ever win over their mind.
It is easier to reach and change someones heart, than their mind. As the old proverb goes….”You can catch more flys with honey than with vinegar.” So coming from that background, here is the thing I noticed and why it does not bother me when a christian (apologist) makes a statement on my blog, because it’s not about what they say or do. It’s about what I say and how I react. There is a reason there are so many stories of atheist becoming christians, it is the generally warm loving environment that Christians like to paint. And the atmosphere of love and community. Really that is something atheist can’t compete with. And many don’t care for. But we all need community and love, more than the we need to be intellectually correct.
“We can be as intellectually correct as much as we want, but if we don’t genuinely care about the wellbeing of a person it means NOTHING.” -(M. Rodriguez, from my guest post on the Confessions of a former Y.E.C. Blog)
Plain in Simple: How we treat people does have a relative impact on what they believe or not believe. And kindness is one of the greatest impacts we can have on a person no matter how much evidence we may present.