So I am trying to decide how to tell my wife, that I no longer believe in Christianity. That I no longer believe in the divine inspiration and authority of the Bible.
Let me give a little contextual background on my Wife and Me.
With certainty I can tell you, we are not casual Christians and we are not cultural Christians. The Bible is not just some book or hobby to us. It has authority over our lives. God is not just something to do, on a Sunday Morning. Our faith, Our God, and Our Bible is a fundamental cornerstone for our marriage and our relationship and we how we plan to raise our children.
If I was to ask My wife, what was the one quality you loved about me the most; she would respond my relationship with Christ and God. (And I would give the same answer likewise if she asked it.)
So, in the last several months, I have tried to drop hints to my wife about my doubt just to gauge her reaction. And I can tell you, it has NOT been a positive retort.
I remember back in February I brought up the topic, of the possibility of the pre-adamite theory and the possibly of their being two creation stories. I can tell you it did not go over well. She adamantly and feverishly asserted, that Adam and Eve were the first two people and that there is no two creation theory. The argument got so intense, we had to discontinue it.
Here are a few things just to show how ingrained our faith is in our life: We have gone door-to-door in our neighborhood trying to witness to our neighbors; My Wife has actually gone on-line and ordered christian tracts to pass out to stranger; All of our friends are Christian in fact one of our close friends is a Pastor of a church (Which we do not attend.); and lastly this Weekend coming up, we are hosting a college reunion potluck for our old college friends from the ministry we were in.
I once asked her in a scenario question, which would bother/upset her more:
- Me being Gay or
- Me Cheating and having a full-blown out affair or
- Me becoming an atheist or
Her answer and response were not reassuring of me expressing my doubts. However the good thing is, when I asked her again with an expanded selection of options, this time atheist did not come out worst….Child Molester did.
In perspective, our faith is simply not just a religion to us; it’s really the basis of all our decisions.
I want to tell her next week, but I’m still trying to decide which the best way to go about this:
- My sister says to just sit down with her, let her know how much I love her, and then let the rest flow.
- I’ve seen some people write a letter or an e-mail
- Nate from the Finding Truth Blog, wrote like a 40-50 page thesis on the flaws of the Bible and Christianity
- I’ve considered writing her a letter on the blog, and just directing her to the blog, so she could see what been on my mind over the last few months.
- A Video that outlines everything
- Or maybe some combination of the options